Four tips to say "no".

there are four things that we need to remember not say when. if we can practicing ourselves said "no", we certainly will not trouble by others again.

first,
give reasons.
if we reject categorically and without reasonable excuse, for sure we are known as lazy people who refuse even as we work our marriage too much. So, before saying the word "not" identify why we had to say so and explain to him.

second,
diplomacy.
there is a risk when we say "no". usually they cause others offended, disappointed and even there the angry. therefore, do not use these words indiscriminately. methods use diplomacy. sense of wise use.

third,
suggest alternatives for balancing the rejection.
if we are unable to say "yes", never ignore the person requesting it. trying to help as far as we are able to offset the rejection. we can move people more qualified or move the directory, for example where he can get more list of names that can help.

fourth,
do not suspend the decision.
of course we heard people say, "Hmmm .. We'll think of me first." words like this does not actually forward the request, sometimes causing even think about wine. Usually defer the decision because they did not dare to say "no". after a few days later, a new variety of reasons that he gave tailored-design. if this is what we do, sure we insulted by people. do not be afraid. make decisions quickly and specify the diplomacy.


LISTEN TO YOUR HEART

Listening to your heart,
finding out who you are, is not simple,
it takes time for the chatter to quiet down.
In the silence of "not doing" we begin to know what we feel.
If we listen and hear what is being offered,
then anything in life can be our guide.

~ Unknown ~